Sunday, June 17, 2012

6/17/12 - Two Dads


I was blessed with two dads.  One gave me curly, dark hair, hazel eyes and an olive complexion.  I’ve been told often throughout my life that I am a lot like him.  Since he committed suicide when I was 9-months old, I’m never quite sure how to respond to that.   Is a “thank you” really in order?

I knew a LOT of bad step-dads, but my mother finally got it right.  Unfortunately, I was already grown and gone by that time, but the man she was married to for the last 25 years was literally an angel on earth.

I’ve written about him before.  He is the only man I’ve ever called Dad, and I did so willingly and lovingly.

Without him, I would never have known unconditional love.

Without him, I would never have known what grace, devotion and gentle kindness look like.

Without him, I would never have witnessed someone who truly loved God and walked the walk - all the time.

Dad, I wish I had known how much I would miss you.  I would have spent more time on the piano bench by your side.  Heaven has enough angels.  I wish we had been given more time together.

Happy Father’s Day


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  1. Nice Memorial. Sorry he has passed. My Father passed in 1988. I miss him more as time goes on.

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    1. @ SierraSue - Thank you. I am sorry for your loss too. But if I miss Dad more as time goes by, I think my heart shall burst. Thanks again, D

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  2. Dad was a special person. I miss him.

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    1. @ John - yes, he was. And I know you do. He loved you. You know that, right? :)

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  3. I am happy for you that you found a father after you were grown, fatherhood is not created by nature, but by love and you found yours. I know you miss him. this is a wonderful memorial for him and great memories for you. my dad died in 2006 at age 93.

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    1. @ Sandra - Thank you. I am very blessed to have known him and that's what makes the "missing him pain" tolerable. A long time ago I gave him a pillow for Father's Day that read, "Anyone can be a Father but it takes someone special to be a DAD." What a blessing for you to have had your dad for so long. I hope he was a good one too. Love and hugZ, D

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  5. Im sorry for your loss of him, but how WONDERFUL that you will always have MEMORIES and (more importantly) have known LOVE from him. I lost my Daddy in 2005 @ the age of 51. We had the same birthday (I was his 25th present). We were together for our half/quarter century birthdays. The following (26/51) was the first ever we didn't speak, and he passed 3 weeks later. I miss him terribly sometimes, and still try to call him, but for me the heartache has eased some over time. He will always be my Daddy and live in my heart! I hope things ease for you. Cherish your memories! I started a "Memory Book" of all the good things I can think of. I write the stories (as you know, my memory is no bueno) so I will always have them. My kids never knew him, and I hope they will be able to appreciate the notebook someday. <3

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